Lucid Learning Systems

Happiness is the degree to which our ideal version of life matches our actual life.  How many of us are truly satisfied in our relationships?  And if we're not, do we possess the skills to increase the possibility of pleasure with the ones we love?

Often, survival in our present day culture saps us of the energy to deal gracefully with important relationship issues that really are the fundamental basis for quality of life. We can be so caught up with success and the pursuit of success, that the greatest success of all can elude us. 

The ability to meet one’s own needs while meeting the needs of others requires more than cursory acquaintance with individual differences.  Deep understanding and respect for the complexities which comprise a human being’s thoughts and behavior, are abilities which must be cultivated and learned-- just as any skill must be mastered.

Anyone who has ever attempted a romance, a friendship, a partnership or a parenting role quickly experiences the necessity of being able to read and interpret mood and feeling states as well as verbal and non verbal behavior.  Human beings are infinitely complex and unless we make an effort to be conscious of our own and others motivations, our automatic assumptions and presumptions can lead us into troubled waters. 

Meetings with a psychotherapist in a coaching capacity can help provide the objectivity necessary for maintaining clear boundaries, sensitive communications and ultimately healthy relationships.

Have a question about how to proceed with a significant relationship?  Feel free to write an e mail to Dr. Andrea Gould and outline your concerns.  She will post answers anonymously on this page.  Look for links to frequently asked relationship questions.